Making peace when you wanted a girl, but you’re having another boy

Making peace when you wanted a girl, but you’re having another boy. Truth be told, I believed I was having a girl. So much so that I got rid of all of my beautiful boy baby clothes. I had many items that were breast milk stained with various fruit and vegetable type characters on them. Those were  hideous and easy to get rid of.  But, the mini selection of european and cashmere baby boy clothing…GONE.  It was very important to me to only create energy surrounding my narrative of having my last baby be a girl.  She even has the most beautiful name (but i’ll keep that one to myself).

Long story short, my husband and I we’re planning on trying to have a baby for a specific amount of time. If we weren’t able to conceive in that time we had plans to do IVF.  The day we were set to pick up the meds and start the IVF process I found out I was pregnant. Isn’t it ironic?? Funny thing is, through the IVF process you can pick your gender based on the health of the embryo.  We would have picked a girl, no questions asked. It’s why we wanted to do IVF in the first place! Well, that and the fact that we’re not as young as we used to be.

God had other plans for us and we surrendered. That is precisely why we tried naturally for a specific amount of time before going with IVF….just in case god wanted to work his magic and he did. Here’s a little pre welcome to the world baby boy!

When I received the gender test results I saw the word MALE and immediately realized I couldn’t unread it.  Between the nausea and shock of it all….I surprisingly didn’t shed a tear. Luckily, I accepted it within ten minutes and moved on. You see, I have always said I would rather have all boys than all girls and I guess when you put it out there it happens.

I absolutely love being a boy mom. I feel so honored to be able to welcome a third son into my life (and a second into my husband’s).  Boys love their mamas hard and tend to be extra sweet and snugly.  They’re also loud, rowdy, stinky and hardly listen to anything you say, but the rewards are far greater than the rest.  The pressure to raise an independent, contributing member of society is real with a boy.  I’ve got my work cut out for me and couldn’t be more excited to take on this new task.

I have received a lot of questions about my pregnancy. I am addressing a couple of them here….

•  Most common question is…how are feeling? I am almost always nauseous which is why you haven’t seen me here lately. I’ve taken very little work over the past couple of months. But now at 12 weeks alongs, I’ve turned a bit of a corner. I know it will just continue to get better. Each pregnancy has gotten a little bit easier. My first pregnancy was a nightmare.  Safe to say I had hyperemesis gravidarum. I was one of those people who’d to go to the ER for IVs because some days I couldn’t keep anything down. I definitely have pregnancy PTSD from that one. Luckily since then it hasn’t been easy, but it’s been better. I think Diclegis has helped me a lot this time around. If you’re miserable, demand your doctor give it to you (none of this try ginger pills nonsense)!  Thanks to Diclegis, I have only been throwing up a few times a week vs. several times a day. Strangely, this is the first pregnancy I’ve had the blues.  Again, it’s getting better, but it’s no joke.  Thank goodness I am on the up and up.
• Do I gain a lot of weight?? Yes I do! My first pregnancy I gained 59 lbs. I promise! I have always been a very naturally thin person, so I usually gain an immediate 10-15 lbs in the first trimester and it just goes up from there. Because I get terrible morning sickness I have to eat a lot of carbs to keep me from vomiting all the time. Of course I try my best to mix that in with healthy foods (normally I am a really clean eater),  but sometimes you’re just surviving and that’s ok. I don’t get too caught up on weight during pregnancy. I know I’ll loose it all after the baby.  Right now is about being in the moment, feeling as good as possible and keeping this baby healthy.

Well, seems like I shared a lot of personal information today. Geeez, I must be pregnant! Ha! Honest as ever. Big thank you to our family and friends for celebrating with us.

Remember, when you wanted a girl, but you’re having another boy everything is going to be A-Ok. This baby will bring you more joy than you could ever imagine. Thanks for stopping by and feel free to ask questions below! xoxo

Thank you for the photos Persnickety Prints